Daily Capsule Series: You Have Nothing to Prove
“If someone chooses a rumour over you, they’ve already made their decision. That’s not your fault. That’s not your fight.”
Have you ever noticed how quickly people change when they hear something about you?
It could be at work, in your neighborhood, or even among family. One day, everything feels normal. The conversations are warm. The greetings are cheerful. You laugh together, share stories, check up on each other.
Then suddenly, something shifts.
They become distant. Their tone gets cold. They start avoiding eye contact. The chats become dry. And you’re left wondering, What happened?
Eventually, you hear through someone else: “They heard something about you.”
That’s it. Just heard.
No one asked you. No one checked in. No one tried to find out what really happened. Whatever they were told, they believed. Just like that.
Can you imagine how it feels to be judged without being heard? To be painted in a story you never got to read?
It’s not just frustrating. It’s heartbreaking.
You start thinking maybe you should explain. Maybe if you tell your side, they’ll change their mind. Maybe if you prove you’re not who they say you are, they’ll come back.
But here’s what many of us learn the hard way:
You have nothing to prove. Not to people who already decided you’re guilty without a conversation.
Trying to constantly explain yourself to people like that can eat you up inside. It makes you anxious. It affects your sleep. You overthink simple things, like what you said last week or how you behaved last month.
You walk on eggshells.
You try to be overly kind to change their opinion.
You go quiet, hoping silence will fix it.
You speak too much, hoping your voice will clear things up.
And through all that effort, some of them still stay cold. Still avoid you. Still judge you based on what they were told by someone who may not even know you well.
It’s exhausting. Emotionally. Mentally. Even physically.
You begin to shrink inside.
You feel like you’re constantly under a spotlight you didn’t turn on.
Let’s break this down simply.
If someone believes a rumour about you without ever hearing your side, they’ve already shown you where you stand in their life.
It’s like someone locking the door to their heart without even checking if you were knocking gently or being wrongly accused of breaking in.
You shouldn’t have to fight for space in someone’s mind if they never gave you a chance to speak. That’s not friendship. That’s not love. That’s not respect.
You don’t need to prove anything to people who let strangers speak louder than your truth.
Think of it like this: if you were accused of something at your job and your manager never gave you a chance to explain — just punished you based on what someone else said — how would that feel? Hurtful, right? Unfair. And it is the same when it happens in relationships or social settings.
Here’s what matters.
Protect your peace.
Stop chasing people who don’t value your voice.
You don’t owe everyone your truth. And you don’t owe anyone an explanation, especially when they never came to you with a question.
Not everyone will want to know your side of the story. And that’s okay.
Not everyone deserves it.
Let them go if they must.
Let them think what they want.
Let your silence be your peace, not your punishment.
Because the truth is, some people were just looking for a reason to walk away. And a rumour gave them that reason. So don’t hold on to that pain. Don’t carry the weight of trying to be perfect for people who are committed to misunderstanding you.
Let go of the urge to explain yourself to those who never truly tried to know you.
You are not here to prove your worth to people who never looked for it in the first place.
You are not here to fix lies that never should have been believed.
You are here to live your truth, calmly and confidently.
So ask yourself:
Who have I been trying to convince lately? And why?
What would happen if I stopped explaining myself to people who never gave me the benefit of the doubt?
Think about it.
Sometimes, letting go of one explanation can give you more peace than a hundred clarifications ever will.
So stop rehearsing your defense in your head.
Stop losing sleep over their silence.
Stop rewriting your past just to look innocent.
You have nothing to prove.
Not to them.
Not today.
Not anymore.
By Victor Raul Puobabangna Plance from Eggu in the Upper West Region of Ghana
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