The recent social media showdown between Peter Okoye(Mr. P) and his elder brother Jude Okoye, former manager of the legendary PSquare duo, has once again put the private feud of the Okoye family on public display. As much as it is tempting to watch the drama unfold, especially for those who relish celebrity gossip, this bitter family crisis has gone far beyond entertainment. What we are witnessing is the slow erosion of a legacy that was built through sweat, sacrifice, and sheer talent. More dangerously, we are also watching a family unravel in full public glare, sowing seeds of generational bitterness and discord that may outlive them all.
This is an advisory opinion article to Paul, Peter, and Jude Okoye: Shield your swords. End this public war. Withdraw your grievances from social media space. Mend the broken bridges now, for your children, your legacy, and the Okoye name. In as much as it is expedient to note in this context that you guys have never met this writer, either individually or collectively, it is germane to warn that the price of public family feuds is very costly as it lingers into generations to come.
In fact, there is no dignity in publicly airing family secrets, no matter how hurt or wronged one may feel. The Instagram tirades and back-and-forth insults between Peter and Jude are not only damaging to their personal reputations but are also tarnishing the PSquare brand, which for over a decade stood as a symbol of African musical excellence.
The entertainment industry thrives on perception. When fans begin to associate your name with drama, scandal, and courtroom testimonies, your value as an icon diminishes. This is not just about who is right or wrong, it is about the collective image of the Okoye family and the business implications of this unending feud. Whether as a group or as solo acts, the Okoye brothers built an empire that inspired millions. But all of that is now under threat, by their own hands.
More damaging is when children become casualties of these feuds in ages to come. In fact, it is not an exaggeration to opine that this feud has gone beyond business or betrayal. It has now become a toxic ego war that, if not checked, will leave permanent scars on their respective children and families. The public vitriol being exchanged today will live forever on the internet. One day, their children will stumble upon these posts and wonder: “Why did Daddy hate Uncle so much?”, or on the way round, “Why did Uncle hate Daddy so much?” That is not the legacy the Okoye brothers should pass on.
It is important to remember that children do not just inherit money, properties, or fame, they also inherit narratives. The bitter seeds of today’s quarrels may grow into tomorrow’s family fragmentation, leading to cousins who cannot speak to each other, or a family name that symbolizes pain rather than pride.
Given the foregoing unpalatable scenario that may crop up in future, permit this writer in this context to make a case for private conflict resolution between the brothers as God will not allow their today’s conflicts to be inherited by their children.
There is a time to speak and a time to be silent. Social media is not a court of justice, nor is it a therapy room. It is a ruthless space where once your words are out, they are no longer yours.
As this current feud continues to evolve, with accusations of betrayal, theft, mismanagement, and even alleged involvement in EFCC investigations, it is clear that the matter has moved from artistic disagreements to legal and criminal dimensions. That makes it even more imperative that the parties involved refrain from making public comments. Let the court handle the court case. Let lawyers speak the legalese. But let family be dealt with inside the home.
Peter, Paul, and Jude, your family, the great Okoye family, was not created on Instagram. It should not be destroyed there. Also, let us not forget what the PSquare brand once represented, not just to Nigeria but to Africa and the world. Their seamless choreography, genre-defining hits, and rags-to-riches story were a beacon of possibility. With hits like “Do Me”, “Personally”, and “No One Like You”, they not only dominated the charts but also became household names from Lagos to Nairobi, from Accra to Johannesburg.
Their success was not just musical, it was symbolic. They showed that two brothers, with discipline and hard work, could take the world by storm. Fans did not just buy their albums, they bought into their unity. That unity was their greatest selling point. And now, that unity is being shattered, right before our eyes.
In African culture, the family name carries generational weight. Disputes, no matter how explosive, are traditionally settled behind closed doors, with elders, mediators, and a deep sense of communal responsibility. What the Okoye brothers are doing now is not only un-African but also reckless. They are dragging a private family matter into the streets and inviting the world to take sides in something that should have been mediated at home.
Furthermore, they have a moral responsibility as public figures and role models to young Africans. Many look up to them not just for music but for guidance on how to navigate success and fame. What message does this feud send to the next generation? That when money comes, blood becomes meaningless? That public disgrace is a fitting end to private disagreement? This is a dangerous example, and they must stop it now. They have said enough to themselves, they should now choose silence and reconciliation.
Mr. P, you have made your point. Jude, you have had your say. The public has heard enough. The back-and-forth on social media space has not changed anything, except deepen the divide and embarrass the family. At this point, the only wise and noble thing to do is to pause. Reflect. Apologize. Not necessarily because one is wrong and the other is right, but because peace is worth more than pride.
The Okoye family must now look beyond this moment and think about posterity, what legacy will be left behind long after the lights have dimmed and the music has stopped?
Paul Okoye, also known as Rudeboy, has largely remained silent in the unfolding drama. But silence, in this case, may be misconstrued as indifference. Paul must speak, not to fuel the feud, but to bring his twin brother and elder brother back to the table of reconciliation. If anyone holds the power to broker peace, it is him.
Likewise, the mothers of their children and other family elders must rise and intervene. This is not the time to stand aloof. Whatever bitterness exists must be addressed with empathy, truth, and a sincere willingness to heal.
The Okoye family has given the world great music, powerful performances, and unforgettable memories. They owe it to themselves, their children, their fans, and their heritage not to let this ugly public fallout become their legacy.
Let this article serve as a plea, not just from a journalist but from a fan, an observer, and a fellow Nigerian who has watched their rise and now laments their fall: Gentlemen, shield your swords. Withdraw your quarrels from the public space. Let your legacy be unity, not scandal. The Okoyename deserves better.
