
In a generation where spiritual hunger runs deep, many Christians—especially in Africa—are unknowingly drifting from true worship of God into a subtle but dangerous form of idolatry: the worship of pastors and spiritual leaders.
The Church, which should be the bride of Christ, is now often functioning like a crowd obsessed with pleasing men instead of God. It is time we ask: Are we really following Christ, or are we following men dressed in religious titles?
Christ Said, “Carry Your Own Cross”—Not Your Pastor’s
The words of Christ in Luke 9:23 are clear:
“Whoever wants to be my disciple must deny themselves and take up their cross daily and follow me.”
This command is personal and non-transferable. Yet today, many believers have abandoned their personal walk with Christ, their study of the Word, and their prayer lives, choosing instead to rely on the “spiritual strength” of their pastors.
Worse still, some congregants carry burdens their pastors should carry—financially, emotionally, spiritually—while neglecting their own soul’s health. This is not discipleship; it’s co-dependency.
When Honor Turns Into Disobedience
God commands wives to be submissive to their own husbands (Ephesians 5:22), but many now give their loyalty, respect, affection, and attention to spiritual leaders while neglecting their own homes.
We’ve seen women:
Spend hours serving pastors in their homes while their husbands and children are emotionally abandoned. Give offerings in secret while their own families struggle. Submit to every word of the pastor while resisting the voice of their spouse.
Let us be clear: This is not spiritual submission—it is rebellion disguised as religion.
The Abuse of Spiritual Power
Some pastors, knowingly or unknowingly, exploit this misplaced loyalty:
They blur the lines between mentorship and manipulation. They enjoy the emotional and physical service of women—sometimes even in their private homes—without accountability or boundaries. They allow themselves to become “mini gods” in the lives of the people.
This is a perversion of spiritual leadership. True shepherds point you to Christ, not to themselves. They empower homes, not divide them.
Worship Belongs to God, Not to Man
The first commandment remains:
“You shall have no other gods before me.” — Exodus 20:3
Pastors are vessels, not deities. They are servants, not masters. When we place them on pedestals higher than God, we commit spiritual adultery. When we fear them more than we fear God, we have lost our way.
The African Church Must Wake Up
We need: YAHUAH
Balance between honor and discernment. Revival in our homes before revival in the pulpit. Women of faith who serve God with strength and wisdom—without becoming pawns in the name of religion. Men of God who protect the flock, not exploit it.
True worship begins in the heart, and it overflows into how we treat our spouses, raise our children, and carry our personal crosses—not just how loudly we say “Amen” in church.
Final Word
If you abandon your personal cross to carry that of your pastor, you may miss your redemption. If you serve the house of God while neglecting your home, you are not pleasing God. And if you give your heart and service to a man of God but dishonor your own husband, you are walking in disobedience.
Let us return to the feet of Jesus, where true worship begins—not at the feet of men.
Scriptural References:
Luke 9:23 Ephesians 5:22 Exodus 20:3 Isaiah 29:13 Matthew 4:10
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By Eric Paddy Boso